If a picture is worth a thousand words, this throwback photo of Big Sis (D.L.) from the 1980's should say volumes about her personality.
Usually I don't post anything super personal on this blog, or social media in general, but I have been a bit stuck since hearing the news. Her funeral was just held a few days ago, and so I'm having trouble feeling creative lately. And this is why.
For some reason, I had an eerie feeling her long battle would be over soon. It's been hard in the whole family, and now the healing begins. For now the details aren't important. So to make it short and sweet, like her, this is all I have...
If it's anything I know, I could always count on my big sister to provide life lessons. Whether she realized it or not, she was a great teacher. Though was was always off "doing her own thing" I still picked up a little from her. Here are just a few examples:
Make new and interesting friends anywhere.
It didn't matter where she found herself, D.L. quickly had a circle of friends around. Some of them may have been a bit questionable, but they weren't boring. Not all your friends are going to be best friends with each other. But, enjoy them for their own uniqueness, whenever you can.
Excel in all you do.
So I could never get into running, or most sports. I never pick up the latest dance moves. I won't ever have a flair for the dramatic. I do my best in the kitchen. I still peck when I type, and end up with a lot of errors anyway. My hair styling and makeup skills could use some remedial work. But I'm not D.L. Those where her things. And she did them well. Find your things, and do them well.
Celebrate everything. Any time.
Who didn't want to be around D.L.? Any day was a good day to celebrate. As I got older and moved away, I always did try to keep in touch with her. And if I could visit home, a trip was not complete without seeing what she was up to. You never know when an impromptu meet-up would lead to a full scale Bar B Que. Did I mention her legendary grilled shrimp skewers?
Surround yourself in style.
Whatever your style may be, it's yours so own it. Don't be afraid of what anyone will say, because she sure didn't. Wild floral arrangements, sequins and feathers, the color red, a ton of animal prints, that was D.L. All at once. Hey, at least I knew what to shop for when buying her a gift.
Travel when you can.
Did you know D.L. once lived in Hawaii? Yes indeed. Many of us may have never even visited there. Yes, it's part of the United States, but still. It's Hawaii. We need to take the opportunity when possible, and try something different than our own reality.
So there you have it, some seemingly random, but totally appropriate life lessons from the experience known as D.L. There are many more of course. Like I said, she was a great teacher.
That's all for now. Back to the blog, well, when I get back to the blog.